Dos And Dont’s Of Having A Weekday Wedding

dos and don'ts of having a weekday wedding

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If you have a specific preferred vendor list and your venue isn’t available for a Saturday wedding, your mind might automatically default to a Friday or Sunday backup option. If you’re able to secure either, then great. However, there may be a scenario where your chosen venue only allows for weekend buyouts or it’s booked through the whole year on all weekend dates. Couples, then, should be open to other days of the week. Here are some tips and ideas considering such a wedding.

Dos Of Planning A Weekday Wedding

Do discuss the possibility of a weekday wedding with the guests that are most important to you first. Some people may raise concerns about their ability to get time off work (teachers spring to mind) and so it’s worth making sure they can make it work before booking. It may be that the solution is as simple as moving your date to a half term week, but you won’t know unless you make the call.

Do sell the idea to guests. We get it, our annual leave is precious and with guests coming from further afield it could mean taking a day either side of the wedding to travel. Tell them about the reduced accommodation rates, encourage them to treat it as a mini-break, bribe them with your delicious wedding cake and explain how much it means to you to have them there but still expect low RSVP rates, lower than for a weekend wedding.

a cozy and charming evening wedding ceremony with lots of candle lanterns and with a bold floral wedding arch

a cozy and charming evening wedding ceremony with lots of candle lanterns and with a bold floral wedding arch

a fantastic outdoor wedding ceremony space with a lake view, greenery arrangements and elegant chairs for a small wedding

a fantastic outdoor wedding ceremony space with a lake view, greenery arrangements and elegant chairs for a small wedding

Do consider booking a ceremony later in the day. If some people are finding it really difficult to get time off, a later ceremony could allow them to travel on the day and cut down their time out of the office.

Do give guests plenty of notice. Just like suppliers, guests will need notice too, so try to let them know your date at the earliest possible opportunity. They’ll be way more likely to be able to settle work arrangements and get accommodation booked if they’ve had a heads up.

Do plan an evening ceremony. Almost as important as the date of the wedding is the start time of your ceremony. A good idea is having an evening ceremony that begins after 6:30 p.m. so that guests who live nearby won’t have to take the full day off of work. Another solution is hosting the cocktail hour before the ceremony, which gives some wiggle room for guests coming straight from work who may encounter traffic.

a lovely and intimate lake wedding reception with lights over it and elegant white blooms on the table

a lovely and intimate lake wedding reception with lights over it and elegant white blooms on the table

a refined wedding reception tablescape with pretty neutral florals, tall and thin candles and neutral porcelain is chic

a refined wedding reception tablescape with pretty neutral florals, tall and thin candles and neutral porcelain is chic

Do try a brunch wedding if it fits everyone – that’s a great idea for early birds and you will get a large variety of menus available. Besides, venues and vendors will charge you even less than for a usual weekday wedding. If this point suits your main guests, go for it and you will enjoy it a lot.

Do incorporate the weekend if you can. Monday wedding celebrations can start with pre-wedding dinner and drinks on Sunday and Thursday nuptials can spill into Friday brunch – an excellent start to the weekend! Pre and post-wedding arrangements could be the perfect opportunity for guests who are unable to attend the wedding to celebrate with you, meaning no one has to miss out.

a small and intimate backyard with lots of potted plants, a triangle wedding arch with greenery and white blooms, white florals lining up the aisle

a small and intimate backyard with lots of potted plants, a triangle wedding arch with greenery and white blooms, white florals lining up the aisle

a small wedding ceremony space with greenery and pastel blooms, neutral vintage chairs and candle lanterns lining up the aisle

a small wedding ceremony space with greenery and pastel blooms, neutral vintage chairs and candle lanterns lining up the aisle

Do save money having a weekday wedding – this is a great advantage of such a celebration! Some vendors will have flexible pricing for weekdays weddings, and couples may be able to negotiate lower rates. Many vendors will jump at the chance to make money on their usual off days. Keep in mind that you might also be able to save on airfare and lodging (important for those hosting a destination wedding!), catering, and floral services and much more!

an evening wedding lounge with lights hanging on the trees, candle lanterns on the floor and potted plants and greenery

an evening wedding lounge with lights hanging on the trees, candle lanterns on the floor and potted plants and greenery

consider having a brunch wedding, too, as here the food is delicious and the possibilities of menus are endless

consider having a brunch wedding, too, as here the food is delicious and the possibilities of menus are endless

Don’ts Of Planning A Weekday Wedding

Don’t expect the reception to go late. Are you hoping for an epic dance party at your wedding? Then getting married on a weekday may not be the best idea. Most guests won’t stay until the wee hours of the morning, since they likely have work the next day and won’t want to nurse a hangover. Weekday weddings work well for couples hosting dry weddings, or if many of the guests won’t be drinking alcohol.

consider having more soft drinks or skipping alcohol at all - no one wants to go to work with a hangover the next day

consider having more soft drinks or skipping alcohol at all - no one wants to go to work with a hangover the next day

don't worry about the guests too much - everyone who really matters, will be there for sure

don't worry about the guests too much - everyone who really matters, will be there for sure

Don’t allow negativity to get you down. Ok, this is easier said than done, but we promise that any friend worth having will do whatever it takes to attend your nuptials so don’t listen to that annoying colleague who thinks weekday weddings are a bad idea – the people who matter will be there.

expect a lower RSVP rate on a weekday as not many guests will be able to attend such a celebration due to their busy schedules

expect a lower RSVP rate on a weekday as not many guests will be able to attend such a celebration due to their busy schedules

for your casual weekday wedding you may wear simple outfits - sneakers, jeans, sweaters and other simple everyday stuff

for your casual weekday wedding you may wear simple outfits - sneakers, jeans, sweaters and other simple everyday stuff

save a lot of money and afford more expensive decor, outfits and other stuff thanks to tying the know on a weekday and not at the weekend

save a lot of money and afford more expensive decor, outfits and other stuff thanks to tying the know on a weekday and not at the weekend

Don’t leave it too late to book. Just because weekday weddings generally mean more suppliers and venues are available, it doesn’t mean that the ones you want will definitely be free at the drop of a hat. Once you’ve confirmed the availability of your nearest and dearest, get on the phone to your suppliers and get your wedding in their diaries.

Don’t ditch a meaningful date if it’s extra important to you. Weekday weddings can be amazing for so many reasons but if your wedding was booked on a special date or anniversary then it is of course worth holding out to get it, even if it falls on a weekend.

talk to your most important wedding guests to find out if they can be there when you want it

talk to your most important wedding guests to find out if they can be there when you want it

think of getting more events before your wedding or changing the scedule - Friday brunch, rehearsal dinner and others

think of getting more events before your wedding or changing the scedule - Friday brunch, rehearsal dinner and others

your wedding venue can be cheaper for booking if you plan a wedding on a weekday

your wedding venue can be cheaper for booking if you plan a wedding on a weekday